Friday, March 25, 2011

Love sucks

With my dating experience, I've noticed that it is really hard to find an excellent guy out there. By excellent I mean someone who is a great father, (or capable of being one)goes to work and pays the bills, treats you with love and respect, and is fun and exciting. This is the kind of guy that I would find myself lucky to be dating so I can't help feeling infuriated when I see someone I know leave a guy just like this. What more could anyone ask for? To be fair, I am not in this relationship so I don't know all the ins and outs but I do know for the most part, this couple has been very happy together. They have a beautiful daughter, who they both love very much, a nice home, good jobs, and they are really good friends. At this time though, she has moved out of their place and has yet to give him a reason for leaving their family. He is absolutely devastated, and I am so sad because it pains me to see him hurting so much and I don't know how to help him. I am not good with endings. I guess you could say that I have abandonment issues and I can't understand this situation. Maybe she has just fallen out of love. That happens to some people. I don't understand it but I guess it does happen. But I can't help but feel angry at the selfishness of this whole situation. I know only too well how hard it is to find someone that is worthy of even dating, let only making a life with, so why throw away a good thing? What's the point? Well, I'm done ranting. I just had to get that off my chest.

1 comment:

  1. As a single father with a good job (albeit a good deal older than your dating age range, I'm sure), I appreciate your frustration with what you have witnessed. I find that it can be hard to date other single parents because of busy kids' schedules and the whole when to introduce a date to the kids, let alone introducing the kids to one another. And women near my age who have never had children aren't particularly interested in a ready made situation. They have made peace with no kids and like the freedom that they have to travel, etc.

    Hang in there, ML. There are good guys out there, but you have may have to track them down in parks and libraries and at the mall shopping for earrings and Justin Bieber shirts with their little princess.